Grief and loss are universal and happen to all of us at some stage. Yet we‘re never quite prepared for when the time comes. Whether it’s a family member, a friend, a partner, or a pet. Yet we can still honour our loved one and at the same time not have to get lost ourselves in endless suffering.
Gently helping the mind adjust the way it has been reading what has happened can make enormous, transformative change to someone’s life who has been stuck in despair or finding it difficult to continue with their own life.
Partners, friends, work colleagues, family – relationships impact all of our lives to varying degrees. Some profoundly, others not so much. Some from long in the past and others in the here and now. They can be filled with wonderful, shared moments we will cherish for life. Likewise, they can be incredibly challenging and leave us the worse for wear. And then there are the inevitable times when we lose someone dear to us by their passing or just leaving us. And at Quantum Hypnotherapy located near Gymea we can help!
Whether it’s a the ebbs and flows of a romantic relationship, or a business relationship, various stages of a family relationship, a friendship, or a break up or loss; whether there’s abuse or abandonment or neglect from now or long ago, the potential for just how your wellbeing will be affected has one common element – You!
We’re social animals, by nature. Like other mammals we group for protection and solace, and even more so for connection. And how we interact with others goes a long way toward the state of our health and happiness. Perhaps even more than you may have imagined.
I’m Rubbish At Relationships
All the good ones are taken! I can’t trust anyone! I always pick losers! He’s got in for me! I know she’ll change one day! I don’t deserve a good relationship! – Yes, maybe you haven’t had a good run up until now with relationships with partners, parents, children or siblings or colleagues. It sure feels that way sometimes. And that’s okay. Like most things in life, it often boils down to how we’re ‘viewing’ or ‘doing’. How I brain in processing and digesting the past and projecting the future. And that’s great news. Why? Because it means it’s not you. It’s how your mind has been making you feel, how you’ve been ‘viewing’ or ‘doing’ things up until now. And you can change either or both .
Are Relationships That Important?
Lack Of Social Relationships Can Be As Damaging To Your Survival As Smoking 15 Cigarettes A Day!
In fact, it turns out that as far as health and survival are concerned, that social connection – friends, family, neighbors or colleagues – improve our odds of survival by 50 percent according to research undertaken at Brigham Young University.
According to the meta-analysis they ran, here is how low social interaction compares to more well-known risk factors:
- Equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day
- Equivalent to being an alcoholic
- More harmful than not exercising
- Twice as harmful as obesity
- Equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day
“These findings indicate that the influence of social relationships on the risk of death are comparable with well-established risk factors for mortality such as smoking and alcohol consumption and exceed the influence of other risk factors such as physical inactivity and obesity.”
Holt-Lunstad, Julianne., Smith, Timothy B., Layton, J. Bradley., “Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review.” PLOS Medicine Journal. July 27, 2010
“The idea that a lack of social relationships is a risk factor for death is still not widely recognized by health organizations and the public,” write the PLOS Medicine editors in a summary of the BYU study and why it was done.
What Kind Of Relational Issues Can Hypnotherapy Help Address?
- Lack Of Communication
- Getting over someone
- Trust Issues
- Loss & Grief
- Space For Individual Growth
- Am I Still In Love?
You’ll Be Surprised How Much Changes When YOU change
As I mentioned earlier, there is one major common denominator in every one of your relationships – You! And for the most part, you have complete influence over how your encounter with each person in your life is filtered within you and how, therefore, it affects you on so many levels.
Notice I didn’t say you have complete influence over ‘others’. Sure, you have some influence. But you can never control them. So the moment your wellbeing is dependent on how other people are, the moment you let go of the steering wheel.
Relationships Are Homes
All homes need attention to maintain, even improve them. If it is neglected for too long, time and other factors take their toll on the structure. But remember, a house can always be renovated. Extended. Rebuilt. Or even vacated, if need be.
If you are finding certain relationships confusing or subtracting from how you want your life to be, then perhaps it’s time to take a closer look at the structure. Almost always, there are more possibilities available than you might realize.
What Will We Be Doing?
In hypnotherapy we’ll look at how the patterns and models of the relationship operate. What dynamics are in play. Untangle anything that needs untangling in a gentle way and re-acquaint you with inner–resources for attaining the changes you want.
Pushing the metaphor a little more – you’ll discover your unique, inner-tradesman and perhaps be surprised at how competent and creative you can be.
With compassion and insight, we’ll discover any unhelpful filters you may have picked up along the way that may be keeping you from seeing everything as it is, any cognitive patterns that are subconscious and no longer serving you in the relationship. Any limiting beliefs that might be white-anting your ‘home’.
Together, we’ll re-invigorate new potentials and ways of ‘being and seeing’ in the target relationship(s) that may be dormant or you may never have experienced before.
The truth is, you have so much more power than you are probably aware. Just becoming more masterful of your own thought processes will open up new acres of space for you to make decisions and change the character of relationships that may have become stuck.
If you’re ready to take that next step now, your first appointment with a FREE first 20 minutes to decide if Strategic Hypnotherapy is for you, is only a click away.